Let me start out by saying that I’m in no way claiming to be super mom or that I have it all together because I don’t.
I have however, found an idea that works for our bedtime routine. I thought it might be helpful for other parents who also struggle with the challenge of wanting to end your parental duties for the day but still want to spend time with your kids.
Some days us parents just want to get our kids to bed asap so we can have a break but we can also feel guilty for it. The guilt for me would always come when they want to read for just a bit…… longer or want to hang out so that they can stay up just a bit ……longer.
I know it’s something I feel I should do but some nights I don’t honestly want to. I just want them to just go to sleep so that I can get to the rest of what I needed or wanted to do that evening.
I really do enjoy our nightly routine of reading together and listening to everyone’s bedtime prayers. I wish I would have recorded so many of the sweet heartfelt prayers I’ve heard them pray…but some nights I just want to fast forward….and then I feel guilty.
So we’ve added something to our routine that has taken away the guilt.
5 minutes of snuggle time with mom.
5 minutes on the clock.
No dad. Just mom.
After reading together as a family and prayers, dad leaves and sets the timer while the boys and I talk, share our dreams, and “the top 5 highlights of our day” while they snuggle with me.
As my boys are getting bigger, they are looking to their dad more as the hero… which I love….but sometimes I feel outnumbered and want to have something special with them too.
( I don’t enjoy watching sports all the time and I don’t have a desire to partake in the endless conversations about the players of different teams.)
I’ve had nights where 5 minutes of quality time has trumped a day of quantity time. This has really helped create a special bond and routine for the boys and I.
I missed a bedtime shift while at a late meeting one evening and when I got home the boys were calling from their bedroom asking me to snuggle with them.
So I did… Adding 5 minutes to …their already WAY past their bedtime….. didn’t seem to matter in the big scheme of things.
I know I will look back and be grateful for starting the 5 minutes sooner than later and will be hopeful that this tradition will last as long as possible.
What’s your bedtime routine with your kids? I would love to hear how make bedtime easier.